August 2026
Marriage & the Church, 16 August 2026
16 08 26 Filed in: Sermons | Ephesians: Our True Identity
Marriage and the Church
Ephesians: Finding Our True Identity
Kirk Schneemann
College First Church of God
August 16, 2026
Ephesians 5:15-33
Series Big Idea: For followers of Jesus, we find our true identity in Christ.
Big Idea: In God’s Kingdom, we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
One of my favorite things about the Bible is how it is so simple and clear, nobody has ever disagreed about its meaning, interpretation, or application! All Christians agree on everything…right?!
We live in a divided world, a divided nation, and tragically a divided Church (capital C). Even though Jesus is seated at the right hand of the Father praying for our unity, we struggle to agree on—seemingly—anything and everything! The roles and differences between men and women are a hot potato in our day, yet I believe we can discern God’s will if we are curious and patient enough to do so.
We’re making our way through the book of Ephesians, written by Paul to early Christians. It feels like this ancient text could’ve been written last week!
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. (Ephesians 5:15-16)
The more things change, the more they stay the same. The days were evil then. The days are evil now. We are called to be light in the darkness, hope in the chaos, love in the indifference, peace in the conflict. Family, we’re on a mission from God, and it’s not to sit around and wait until we die or some so-called “rapture” event. We’re here to love, equip, and send, making disciples of all nations. We must be wise in our living. We’re not supposed to blend in and do what everyone else is doing.
Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. (Ephesians 5:17)
Do you want to know God’s will? Paul continues…
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. (Ephesians 5:18-20)
There it is! This is God’s will for you. God’s will for you is to
- be wise
- stay sober
- be filled with the Holy Spirit (evidence will be the fruit of the Spirit, Gal. 5:22-23)
If we are filled with the Holy Spirit, it will be natural for us to
- worship God through music
- give thanks for everything
While it’s not always easy, it is simple. It’s the next section that gets controversial.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22
I can’t begin to imagine how much damage men have done taking this verse out of context. “Submit, woman! The Bible says you are to do whatever I want. Be a good godly woman and…”
One of my greatest frustrations as a pastor is scripture turned into sound bites, words used as weapons, passages manipulated to support agendas. It happens all the time. We must always read the Bible in context because the Bible can never mean what it never meant.
If you’re paying close attention, I skipped a verse, and it might be the cornerstone verse for the rest of our scripture today. Verse twenty-one says,
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Ephesians 5:21)
In God’s Kingdom, we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. This can only occur when we’re filled with the Holy Spirit, when we are surrendered and submitted to God, when we embrace Jesus as not just Savior but LORD. The fruit of this is honoring, loving, and serving one another.
Now Paul’s going to use the examples of wives and husbands.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24)
The word “submit” does not actually occur in the original Greek. Verse 22 flows from verse 21 reading literally, “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ; wives, to your own husbands as to the Lord.”
God created us male and female. We are different, made to complement one another. The Greek word for “head” here is kephale which could mean “source” as woman was created from man in Genesis 2. It could also convey authority in this context. If so, this authority is not worldly power and control, but sacrificial love. I believe the heaviest burden—the greatest responsibility—is on the husband.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31
(Ephesians 5:25-30)
Jesus “gave himself up” for us, the church. He literally died for us. He makes us holy. He washes us and forgives us. He loves and sacrifices for us. In the Roman context of Ephesians, asking husbands to sacrifice for their wives would’ve been laughable, yet that’s what’s done in the Kingdom of God. Husbands are to be willing to die for their wives…daily. That’s a high calling.
Today, Jesus cares for the church. We are members of his body. He is the head, the bridegroom. He will return soon to our planet. We will spend eternity together on the new earth and the New Jerusalem.
I love how this passage is about marriage, but also about the Church. Husbands and wives. Jesus and the Church. No ego, control, sin, pressure, or selfishness.
Paul has been talking about the different roles of the head and body, but now he will talk about the unity of the two, beginning with a quote from the book of Genesis.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33)
God’s design for marriage is a husband and wife becoming one, one flesh, one family, one body, mutual submission.
An Instagram post from MarriedWithTheMugicas summarized this well.
The commands aren't independent. They're a cycle. When a husband dies to himself, it becomes safe for his wife to respect him. When a wife respects her husband, it gives him something worth dying for. Death fuels respect. Respect fuels death. Each one makes the other possible. Your marriage isn't stuck because one of you is failing. It's stuck because neither of you will go first.
So What?
Husbands are to love their wives.
Wives are to respect their husbands.
We are to submit to one another.
I like Warren Wiersbe’s summary:
When the Christian wife submits herself to Christ and lets Him be the Lord of her life, she will have no difficulty submitting to her husband. This does not mean that she becomes a slave, for the husband is also to submit to Christ. And if both are living under the lordship of Christ, there can be only harmony. Headship is not dictatorship. “Each for the other, both for the Lord.”
Some of you are struggling in your marriage. Reach out to pastor. See a Christian counselor. Get on your knees and ask God what your next step is rather than waiting for your spouse to go first. If you are in danger, get help immediately. There are local resources available, but you need to tell someone.
Some of you are doing fine in your marriage. Seek fresh ways to love and serve one another. While not scientific, consider the 5 Love Languages and ways to speak the language of your spouse, not just your own.
Some of you desperately want to get married. Be patient. Become the desirable spouse rather than seeking one. Pursue God’s will as described in our text.
All of us need to pursue God’s love language…obedience.
All of us need to serve one another in community. If you’re not in a small group or serving on a ministry team, now is the perfect time to get in the game. New groups and opportunities are starting. Use a yellow Connection Card for more information.
For those looking for more on the biblical roles of men and women, particularly in leadership, I want to recommend Preston Sprinkle’s recent book From Genesis to Junia: An Honest Search for What the Bible Says about Women in Leadership. It offers various perspectives on these and related passages.
Next week we’ll see other ways to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” again, a revolutionary idea then and a radical idea among many still today.
The Bible is a massive library of more than sixty books. It’s understandable that interpreting it would not always be easy, especially when it was written in a different culture thousands of years ago. Still, this ancient wisdom is incredibly relevant. When we disagree on interpretation, we should always do so with…love and respect, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians: Finding Our True Identity
Kirk Schneemann
College First Church of God
August 16, 2026
Ephesians 5:15-33
Series Big Idea: For followers of Jesus, we find our true identity in Christ.
Big Idea: In God’s Kingdom, we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
One of my favorite things about the Bible is how it is so simple and clear, nobody has ever disagreed about its meaning, interpretation, or application! All Christians agree on everything…right?!
We live in a divided world, a divided nation, and tragically a divided Church (capital C). Even though Jesus is seated at the right hand of the Father praying for our unity, we struggle to agree on—seemingly—anything and everything! The roles and differences between men and women are a hot potato in our day, yet I believe we can discern God’s will if we are curious and patient enough to do so.
We’re making our way through the book of Ephesians, written by Paul to early Christians. It feels like this ancient text could’ve been written last week!
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. (Ephesians 5:15-16)
The more things change, the more they stay the same. The days were evil then. The days are evil now. We are called to be light in the darkness, hope in the chaos, love in the indifference, peace in the conflict. Family, we’re on a mission from God, and it’s not to sit around and wait until we die or some so-called “rapture” event. We’re here to love, equip, and send, making disciples of all nations. We must be wise in our living. We’re not supposed to blend in and do what everyone else is doing.
Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. (Ephesians 5:17)
Do you want to know God’s will? Paul continues…
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. (Ephesians 5:18-20)
There it is! This is God’s will for you. God’s will for you is to
- be wise
- stay sober
- be filled with the Holy Spirit (evidence will be the fruit of the Spirit, Gal. 5:22-23)
If we are filled with the Holy Spirit, it will be natural for us to
- worship God through music
- give thanks for everything
While it’s not always easy, it is simple. It’s the next section that gets controversial.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22
I can’t begin to imagine how much damage men have done taking this verse out of context. “Submit, woman! The Bible says you are to do whatever I want. Be a good godly woman and…”
One of my greatest frustrations as a pastor is scripture turned into sound bites, words used as weapons, passages manipulated to support agendas. It happens all the time. We must always read the Bible in context because the Bible can never mean what it never meant.
If you’re paying close attention, I skipped a verse, and it might be the cornerstone verse for the rest of our scripture today. Verse twenty-one says,
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. (Ephesians 5:21)
In God’s Kingdom, we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. This can only occur when we’re filled with the Holy Spirit, when we are surrendered and submitted to God, when we embrace Jesus as not just Savior but LORD. The fruit of this is honoring, loving, and serving one another.
Now Paul’s going to use the examples of wives and husbands.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24)
The word “submit” does not actually occur in the original Greek. Verse 22 flows from verse 21 reading literally, “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ; wives, to your own husbands as to the Lord.”
God created us male and female. We are different, made to complement one another. The Greek word for “head” here is kephale which could mean “source” as woman was created from man in Genesis 2. It could also convey authority in this context. If so, this authority is not worldly power and control, but sacrificial love. I believe the heaviest burden—the greatest responsibility—is on the husband.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31
(Ephesians 5:25-30)
Jesus “gave himself up” for us, the church. He literally died for us. He makes us holy. He washes us and forgives us. He loves and sacrifices for us. In the Roman context of Ephesians, asking husbands to sacrifice for their wives would’ve been laughable, yet that’s what’s done in the Kingdom of God. Husbands are to be willing to die for their wives…daily. That’s a high calling.
Today, Jesus cares for the church. We are members of his body. He is the head, the bridegroom. He will return soon to our planet. We will spend eternity together on the new earth and the New Jerusalem.
I love how this passage is about marriage, but also about the Church. Husbands and wives. Jesus and the Church. No ego, control, sin, pressure, or selfishness.
Paul has been talking about the different roles of the head and body, but now he will talk about the unity of the two, beginning with a quote from the book of Genesis.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33)
God’s design for marriage is a husband and wife becoming one, one flesh, one family, one body, mutual submission.
An Instagram post from MarriedWithTheMugicas summarized this well.
The commands aren't independent. They're a cycle. When a husband dies to himself, it becomes safe for his wife to respect him. When a wife respects her husband, it gives him something worth dying for. Death fuels respect. Respect fuels death. Each one makes the other possible. Your marriage isn't stuck because one of you is failing. It's stuck because neither of you will go first.
So What?
Husbands are to love their wives.
Wives are to respect their husbands.
We are to submit to one another.
I like Warren Wiersbe’s summary:
When the Christian wife submits herself to Christ and lets Him be the Lord of her life, she will have no difficulty submitting to her husband. This does not mean that she becomes a slave, for the husband is also to submit to Christ. And if both are living under the lordship of Christ, there can be only harmony. Headship is not dictatorship. “Each for the other, both for the Lord.”
Some of you are struggling in your marriage. Reach out to pastor. See a Christian counselor. Get on your knees and ask God what your next step is rather than waiting for your spouse to go first. If you are in danger, get help immediately. There are local resources available, but you need to tell someone.
Some of you are doing fine in your marriage. Seek fresh ways to love and serve one another. While not scientific, consider the 5 Love Languages and ways to speak the language of your spouse, not just your own.
Some of you desperately want to get married. Be patient. Become the desirable spouse rather than seeking one. Pursue God’s will as described in our text.
All of us need to pursue God’s love language…obedience.
All of us need to serve one another in community. If you’re not in a small group or serving on a ministry team, now is the perfect time to get in the game. New groups and opportunities are starting. Use a yellow Connection Card for more information.
For those looking for more on the biblical roles of men and women, particularly in leadership, I want to recommend Preston Sprinkle’s recent book From Genesis to Junia: An Honest Search for What the Bible Says about Women in Leadership. It offers various perspectives on these and related passages.
Next week we’ll see other ways to “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ,” again, a revolutionary idea then and a radical idea among many still today.
The Bible is a massive library of more than sixty books. It’s understandable that interpreting it would not always be easy, especially when it was written in a different culture thousands of years ago. Still, this ancient wisdom is incredibly relevant. When we disagree on interpretation, we should always do so with…love and respect, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Light, 9 August 2026
09 08 26 Filed in: Sermons | Ephesians: Our True Identity
Light
Ephesians: Finding Our True Identity
Kirk Schneemann
College First Church of God
August 9, 2026
Ephesians 5:3-14
Series Big Idea: For followers of Jesus, we find our true identity in Christ.
Big Idea: Followers of Jesus are children of light, shining like stars in a dark world.
A few weeks ago, Heather and I met our oldest, Kailey, and her husband, Andrew, in Townsend, Tennessee. One of the highlights was going with them and Andrew’s mom to Tuckaleechee Caverns. It was quite the experience. There’s an entirely different world living inside this mountain discovered a few generations ago by two boys who later made it suitable for tours.
At one point in our adventure, the guide shut off all of the lights. We were in complete and total darkness. Rarely do we experience a complete absence of light on our electricity-filled planet.
In the cavern, the smallest light—even a candle—could pierce the darkness.
We live in a spiritually dark world. This is nothing new. It’s been true since Adam and Eve disobeyed God in the Garden of Eden. Jesus is the light of the world, and his followers are children of light, shining like stars in a dark world.
Throughout our study of this short book Paul wrote to early Christians about 2000 years ago, we’ve covered a variety of instructions for godly living that contrast with the world. In a world of grey, we see stark differences between Jesus and the world, good and evil, light and darkness.
Jesus – good – light World – evil - dark
You can’t follow Jesus and the world. Christians are to do life differently. Last week we began chapter five:
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Ephesians 5:1-2)
Now Paul continues,
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. (Ephesians 5:3)
Oh boy! We could study this one for a long time! Paul highlights three things.
First, sexual immorality. The original Greek word, porneia, might sound familiar. It’s where our world pornography is derived. Let me explain this in simple terms: any sexual activity outside of a marriage between a husband and wife. God created sex and it’s a wonderful invention, not only for procreation and mutual pleasure but also a bond between two people, mirroring Christ and the Church. It is a wonderful thing when done God’s way, but like fire in a fireplace, if it goes beyond its proper use, it can be deadly. Literally.
In Paul’s day, people thought the body was separate from the soul, so they believed one did not impact the other, which we know today is not true. The technical term is Gnosticism. During this time in the Roman empire, it was expected for men to have a mistress, and some people didn’t think twice about fornication and adultery. Therefore, it was radical for Paul to speak out against such things, perhaps even more radical than it is today in our sex-crazed culture.
I know this is a sensitive subject for many. It’s a place of brokenness. The world has rewritten God’s book and made a mockery out of this sacred institution. Some of the greatest pain and shame centers around abuse and sin in this arena. Let me make one important statement: forgiveness is available. As I often say, nothing you can do can make God love you less than He already does. Don’t let the enemy whisper in your ear that you’re beyond God’s forgiveness. Jesus died for your sins…all of them.
Because Paul recognized the pain and destruction of sexual immorality, he says, “not even a hint.” He knew nothing of online porn, VR, AI, and the hosts of other deviant tools we have—often in our pockets. But he understood purity and holiness. If you need help in this area—and many of you do—I want to encourage you to reach out to a pastor, our church office, visit https://xxxchurch.com, or check out Recovery Alive, Tuesdays at New Life Church in Findlay (which is for anyone dealing with hurts, habits, or hangups).
Paul also mentions any kind of impurity and greed. Since none of you struggle with those, we can move on! Ha!
Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. (Ephesians 5:4)
We looked at this last week. Jesus said,
What you say flows from what is in your heart. (Luke 6:45b, NLT)
An attitude of gratitude will change us and those around us.
For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (Ephesians 5:5)
Yikes! Who wants to fit into this scenario?
The second of the Ten Commandments says,
“You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. (Exodus 20:4, NLT)
We often think of idols as statues of rock or wood, but Paul makes it clear that immoral, impure, and greedy things can separate us from God. Money is one of the greatest idols in our culture. Greed will always leaving you wanting more.
Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them. (Ephesians 5:6-7)
God’s wrath is real and will be poured out upon the disobedient, the unrepentant.
Obviously, we don’t want to avoid being with sinners but rather avoid following their sinful behavior. That’s the idea of being in the world but not of the world.
And obviously we are all sinners. If perfection was the requirement, this room would be empty! The difference between the sins of Christians and the sins of the world is Jesus. You must be born again. You must repent and turn away from your sins, receiving the gift of grace paid for by Jesus on the cross. Christians aren’t perfect, but we are seeking to follow the perfect example of Christ.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. (Ephesians 5:8-10)
Here’s the contrast again between darkness and light. Good fruit comes from the Holy Spirit.
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. (Ephesians 5:11-12)
These days it seems like hardly anything is done in secret! People have no shame! Much of what even entertains us is sinful behavior.
The point is followers of Jesus are not to live in the darkness but live like children of the light. Jesus is the light of the world (John 8:12). The more time we spend with Jesus and the closer we get to the light, the greater we will reflect Christ to the world.
But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.
14 This is why it is said:
“Wake up, sleeper,
rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.” (Ephesians 5:13-14)
Ephesians: Finding Our True Identity
Kirk Schneemann
College First Church of God
August 9, 2026
Ephesians 5:3-14
Series Big Idea: For followers of Jesus, we find our true identity in Christ.
Big Idea: Followers of Jesus are children of light, shining like stars in a dark world.
A few weeks ago, Heather and I met our oldest, Kailey, and her husband, Andrew, in Townsend, Tennessee. One of the highlights was going with them and Andrew’s mom to Tuckaleechee Caverns. It was quite the experience. There’s an entirely different world living inside this mountain discovered a few generations ago by two boys who later made it suitable for tours.
At one point in our adventure, the guide shut off all of the lights. We were in complete and total darkness. Rarely do we experience a complete absence of light on our electricity-filled planet.
In the cavern, the smallest light—even a candle—could pierce the darkness.
We live in a spiritually dark world. This is nothing new. It’s been true since Adam and Eve disobeyed God in the Garden of Eden. Jesus is the light of the world, and his followers are children of light, shining like stars in a dark world.
Throughout our study of this short book Paul wrote to early Christians about 2000 years ago, we’ve covered a variety of instructions for godly living that contrast with the world. In a world of grey, we see stark differences between Jesus and the world, good and evil, light and darkness.
Jesus – good – light World – evil - dark
You can’t follow Jesus and the world. Christians are to do life differently. Last week we began chapter five:
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Ephesians 5:1-2)
Now Paul continues,
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. (Ephesians 5:3)
Oh boy! We could study this one for a long time! Paul highlights three things.
First, sexual immorality. The original Greek word, porneia, might sound familiar. It’s where our world pornography is derived. Let me explain this in simple terms: any sexual activity outside of a marriage between a husband and wife. God created sex and it’s a wonderful invention, not only for procreation and mutual pleasure but also a bond between two people, mirroring Christ and the Church. It is a wonderful thing when done God’s way, but like fire in a fireplace, if it goes beyond its proper use, it can be deadly. Literally.
In Paul’s day, people thought the body was separate from the soul, so they believed one did not impact the other, which we know today is not true. The technical term is Gnosticism. During this time in the Roman empire, it was expected for men to have a mistress, and some people didn’t think twice about fornication and adultery. Therefore, it was radical for Paul to speak out against such things, perhaps even more radical than it is today in our sex-crazed culture.
I know this is a sensitive subject for many. It’s a place of brokenness. The world has rewritten God’s book and made a mockery out of this sacred institution. Some of the greatest pain and shame centers around abuse and sin in this arena. Let me make one important statement: forgiveness is available. As I often say, nothing you can do can make God love you less than He already does. Don’t let the enemy whisper in your ear that you’re beyond God’s forgiveness. Jesus died for your sins…all of them.
Because Paul recognized the pain and destruction of sexual immorality, he says, “not even a hint.” He knew nothing of online porn, VR, AI, and the hosts of other deviant tools we have—often in our pockets. But he understood purity and holiness. If you need help in this area—and many of you do—I want to encourage you to reach out to a pastor, our church office, visit https://xxxchurch.com, or check out Recovery Alive, Tuesdays at New Life Church in Findlay (which is for anyone dealing with hurts, habits, or hangups).
Paul also mentions any kind of impurity and greed. Since none of you struggle with those, we can move on! Ha!
Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. (Ephesians 5:4)
We looked at this last week. Jesus said,
What you say flows from what is in your heart. (Luke 6:45b, NLT)
An attitude of gratitude will change us and those around us.
For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. (Ephesians 5:5)
Yikes! Who wants to fit into this scenario?
The second of the Ten Commandments says,
“You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea. (Exodus 20:4, NLT)
We often think of idols as statues of rock or wood, but Paul makes it clear that immoral, impure, and greedy things can separate us from God. Money is one of the greatest idols in our culture. Greed will always leaving you wanting more.
Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them. (Ephesians 5:6-7)
God’s wrath is real and will be poured out upon the disobedient, the unrepentant.
Obviously, we don’t want to avoid being with sinners but rather avoid following their sinful behavior. That’s the idea of being in the world but not of the world.
And obviously we are all sinners. If perfection was the requirement, this room would be empty! The difference between the sins of Christians and the sins of the world is Jesus. You must be born again. You must repent and turn away from your sins, receiving the gift of grace paid for by Jesus on the cross. Christians aren’t perfect, but we are seeking to follow the perfect example of Christ.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. (Ephesians 5:8-10)
Here’s the contrast again between darkness and light. Good fruit comes from the Holy Spirit.
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. (Ephesians 5:11-12)
These days it seems like hardly anything is done in secret! People have no shame! Much of what even entertains us is sinful behavior.
The point is followers of Jesus are not to live in the darkness but live like children of the light. Jesus is the light of the world (John 8:12). The more time we spend with Jesus and the closer we get to the light, the greater we will reflect Christ to the world.
But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.
14 This is why it is said:
“Wake up, sleeper,
rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.” (Ephesians 5:13-14)
We can probably all think of examples of people being exposed for the sins done in secret, some of them even Christian celebrities. One day, everything will be exposed. There will be nowhere to hide on Judgment Day…only a Savior who stands ready to forgive those who have received his gift of grace.
So What?
Jesus is the light of the world.
The light of Jesus produces good fruit: benevolence, truth, and righteousness.
The light of Jesus allows us to discern between good and evil.
The light of Jesus lives in every believer as we spend time in worship, prayer, and study. We need Jesus for ourselves and others. As the video said, “Shine in the broken places. Shine in the everyday moments. Shine because he shines through you.”
This week it may look like expressions of gratitude and thanksgiving, serving others, offering a kind word, giving to someone in need, praying for a friend, inviting someone to grab coffee, or volunteering here or somewhere else in our community such as City Mission, Welcome to a New Life, or the Women’s Resource Center.
As Heather said last week, KFC: kindness, forgiveness, compassion.
Whatever you do this week, spend time with Jesus, draw near to the light of Christ, and
Go light your world!
Godly Living, 2 August 2026
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Ephesians: Finding Our True Identity
Kirk Schneemann
College First Church of God
August 2, 2026
Ephesians 4:25-5:2
Series Big Idea: For followers of Jesus, we find our true identity in Christ.
Big Idea: Following Jesus involves living a godly, alternative lifestyle that re-presents him well.
How many of you like rules?
How many of you like it when others break the rules?
Most rules are designed for the safety and welfare of people, which includes us. I am glad when people obey laws such as don’t murder, stay in your lane except to pass, don’t yell f-i-r-e in a crowded building, or don’t smoke indoors.
Christianity often gets a bad rap for being filled with rules that make life boring, when in fact every command in the Bible is designed for our good and God’s glory. Today continuing our study of the short book of Ephesians, we’ll look at a list of instructions given by Paul to Christians in the first century. Following Jesus involves living a godly, alternative lifestyle that re-presents him well.
The context from last week was a contrast from life BC—before Christ—and after.
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23 to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24 and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:22-24)
Here’s a vision of the new self:
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. (Ephesians 4:25)
Don’t lie. Tell the truth. Any questions? This does not mean blast people but rather speak the truth in love…for the benefit of the body, the Church.
He reminds his audience again we are one body. You and I are part of the body of Christ. Each part is important. Each part is different. Each part represents Jesus. We need every part…including yours!
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
First, Paul is quoting Psalm 4:4 which says in the New International Version:
Tremble and do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. (Psalm 4:4, NIV)
I think the New Living Translation is easier to understand.
Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. (Psalm 4:4, NLT)
How many have heard this as marriage advice? Don’t go to bed angry. While that’s an admirable goal and we should promptly address conflict, not every conflict can be resolved by midnight. But let’s look at this word “anger.”
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
Does this imply anger is not a sin?
The word “anger” here is orgizo, to provoke or enrage, to become exasperated, to be angry. The word “angry” here, parorgismos, is rage or wrath. There are things like human trafficking and injustice which should make us angry and motivate us to selfless action. I believe most anger, however, is rooted in personal offense that can result in resentment, revenge, and unforgiveness.
I like what Brant Hansen says in his book Unoffendable:
The thing that you think makes your anger “righteous” is the very thing you are called to forgive. Grace isn’t for the deserving. Forgiving means surrendering your claim to resentment and letting go of anger. Anger is extraordinarily easy. It’s our default setting. Love is very difficult. Love is a miracle.
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
I believe what’s required of us is to die to ourselves, to our agendas, to our rights and submit to the will of the Father. This doesn’t mean we’re doormats without boundaries, but it means recognizing we’ve been forgiven and need to develop a lifestyle of forgiving others. We don’t have to have our way. We seek God’s way. We are to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God (Micah 6:8). Anger is not required. Brant Hansen notes,
“the best police officers don’t do their jobs in anger. The best soldiers don’t function out of anger. Anger does not enhance judgment.”
Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need. (Ephesians 4:25-28)
Don’t steal. Work. Share. Most of us are good with the first one. I think most of us understand the value and necessity of work. Generosity is next level, though. It’s not yours in the first place. Everything we have belongs to God. We are His stewards. It’s God’s money. He gave us the ability to possess it, but we must never let it possess us. Generosity is the pathway to peace, contentment, and trust in God.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)
What does this mean? Edify, stupid! That’s an old high school joke.
Simply consider the Golden Rule spoken by Jesus:
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:12)
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)
There’s a place for humor and joking, but not at the expense of another person. This includes people absent from the conversation, often known as gossip or slander. Here’s a simple test: would you say it if they were present?
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. (Ephesians 4:30)
The Holy Spirit is grieved when relationships and unity in the Church are broken by the things mentioned such as lying, foul language, and unforgiveness.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. (Ephesians 4:31)
Get rid of all rage and anger. We will get angry, but then we must get rid of it. How?
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32)
This is radical! Where do we see kindness, compassion, and forgiveness in our culture?
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Ephesians 5:1-2)
This is the essence of the gospel, the good news: Jesus! Jesus is LORD! He came, lived, loved, died, rose from the dead, and is returning soon.
Jesus never asks us to do something he has not already demonstrated.
We are to follow his example, not just obey his commands. To walk in the way of love, we must experience it. To walk in the way of forgiveness, we must experience it.
If you’re going to call yourself a Christian, act like Jesus, which first requires you to spend time with Jesus, know Jesus, and obey Jesus.
So What?
The Bible is really not a collection of rules. It’s a master plan of how to live an abundant, flourishing life filled with meaning, purpose, satisfaction, and joy. While the world seeks revenge, deceit, manipulation, gossip, envy, and personal happiness at all cost, the way of Jesus is radically different. It’s not just avoiding things, but replacing sinful behavior with righteous, godly action.
Last Sunday we talked about the old self and the new self, a true transformation. Here’s a summary:
Old Self New Self
Lies Truth
Sinful anger Peace and reconciliation
Stealing Honest work and generosity
Corrupt speech Encouragement
Bitterness Forgiveness and kindness
Self-centered Selfless and Christ-centered love
Which one of these areas needs the most attention in your life? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal one step for you to take this week.
Instead of a rule book, the Bible is a life book, a complete guide to joy, peace, and purpose. Imagine a world in which everyone has taken off the old self and put on the new self, where everyone is becoming like Christ.
Following Jesus involves living a godly, alternative lifestyle that re-presents him well. There’s no better way to live!
Ephesians: Finding Our True Identity
Kirk Schneemann
College First Church of God
August 2, 2026
Ephesians 4:25-5:2
Series Big Idea: For followers of Jesus, we find our true identity in Christ.
Big Idea: Following Jesus involves living a godly, alternative lifestyle that re-presents him well.
How many of you like rules?
How many of you like it when others break the rules?
Most rules are designed for the safety and welfare of people, which includes us. I am glad when people obey laws such as don’t murder, stay in your lane except to pass, don’t yell f-i-r-e in a crowded building, or don’t smoke indoors.
Christianity often gets a bad rap for being filled with rules that make life boring, when in fact every command in the Bible is designed for our good and God’s glory. Today continuing our study of the short book of Ephesians, we’ll look at a list of instructions given by Paul to Christians in the first century. Following Jesus involves living a godly, alternative lifestyle that re-presents him well.
The context from last week was a contrast from life BC—before Christ—and after.
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23 to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24 and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:22-24)
Here’s a vision of the new self:
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. (Ephesians 4:25)
Don’t lie. Tell the truth. Any questions? This does not mean blast people but rather speak the truth in love…for the benefit of the body, the Church.
He reminds his audience again we are one body. You and I are part of the body of Christ. Each part is important. Each part is different. Each part represents Jesus. We need every part…including yours!
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
First, Paul is quoting Psalm 4:4 which says in the New International Version:
Tremble and do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. (Psalm 4:4, NIV)
I think the New Living Translation is easier to understand.
Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Think about it overnight and remain silent. (Psalm 4:4, NLT)
How many have heard this as marriage advice? Don’t go to bed angry. While that’s an admirable goal and we should promptly address conflict, not every conflict can be resolved by midnight. But let’s look at this word “anger.”
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
Does this imply anger is not a sin?
The word “anger” here is orgizo, to provoke or enrage, to become exasperated, to be angry. The word “angry” here, parorgismos, is rage or wrath. There are things like human trafficking and injustice which should make us angry and motivate us to selfless action. I believe most anger, however, is rooted in personal offense that can result in resentment, revenge, and unforgiveness.
I like what Brant Hansen says in his book Unoffendable:
The thing that you think makes your anger “righteous” is the very thing you are called to forgive. Grace isn’t for the deserving. Forgiving means surrendering your claim to resentment and letting go of anger. Anger is extraordinarily easy. It’s our default setting. Love is very difficult. Love is a miracle.
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27)
I believe what’s required of us is to die to ourselves, to our agendas, to our rights and submit to the will of the Father. This doesn’t mean we’re doormats without boundaries, but it means recognizing we’ve been forgiven and need to develop a lifestyle of forgiving others. We don’t have to have our way. We seek God’s way. We are to act justly, love mercy, and walk humbly with our God (Micah 6:8). Anger is not required. Brant Hansen notes,
“the best police officers don’t do their jobs in anger. The best soldiers don’t function out of anger. Anger does not enhance judgment.”
Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need. (Ephesians 4:25-28)
Don’t steal. Work. Share. Most of us are good with the first one. I think most of us understand the value and necessity of work. Generosity is next level, though. It’s not yours in the first place. Everything we have belongs to God. We are His stewards. It’s God’s money. He gave us the ability to possess it, but we must never let it possess us. Generosity is the pathway to peace, contentment, and trust in God.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)
What does this mean? Edify, stupid! That’s an old high school joke.
Simply consider the Golden Rule spoken by Jesus:
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:12)
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29)
There’s a place for humor and joking, but not at the expense of another person. This includes people absent from the conversation, often known as gossip or slander. Here’s a simple test: would you say it if they were present?
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. (Ephesians 4:30)
The Holy Spirit is grieved when relationships and unity in the Church are broken by the things mentioned such as lying, foul language, and unforgiveness.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. (Ephesians 4:31)
Get rid of all rage and anger. We will get angry, but then we must get rid of it. How?
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32)
This is radical! Where do we see kindness, compassion, and forgiveness in our culture?
Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. (Ephesians 5:1-2)
This is the essence of the gospel, the good news: Jesus! Jesus is LORD! He came, lived, loved, died, rose from the dead, and is returning soon.
Jesus never asks us to do something he has not already demonstrated.
We are to follow his example, not just obey his commands. To walk in the way of love, we must experience it. To walk in the way of forgiveness, we must experience it.
If you’re going to call yourself a Christian, act like Jesus, which first requires you to spend time with Jesus, know Jesus, and obey Jesus.
So What?
The Bible is really not a collection of rules. It’s a master plan of how to live an abundant, flourishing life filled with meaning, purpose, satisfaction, and joy. While the world seeks revenge, deceit, manipulation, gossip, envy, and personal happiness at all cost, the way of Jesus is radically different. It’s not just avoiding things, but replacing sinful behavior with righteous, godly action.
Last Sunday we talked about the old self and the new self, a true transformation. Here’s a summary:
Old Self New Self
Lies Truth
Sinful anger Peace and reconciliation
Stealing Honest work and generosity
Corrupt speech Encouragement
Bitterness Forgiveness and kindness
Self-centered Selfless and Christ-centered love
Which one of these areas needs the most attention in your life? Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal one step for you to take this week.
Instead of a rule book, the Bible is a life book, a complete guide to joy, peace, and purpose. Imagine a world in which everyone has taken off the old self and put on the new self, where everyone is becoming like Christ.
Following Jesus involves living a godly, alternative lifestyle that re-presents him well. There’s no better way to live!